Wednesday, January 11, 2012

Photo Mishaps

I am going to take a break from the guest posts because I have something that I need to get off my chest. And I really need some advice on the subject, so I figured that you guys are the best people to turn to.

So the other day I told you guys that there were a few things about our wedding that I would have changed if I had the chance to go back and do things over. Well, I am here to tell you about one of those things.

Let me start by saying that I am so excited that we are finally married. I couldn't be more happy that we are finally husband and wife. However, something is really bothering me and it is making it really difficult for me to look at and focus on the positive and happy moments of our big day.

It all started when we got to the church. My girls were getting dressed and everything seemed to be going okay. Once they were getting done getting dressed, it was my turn. Well, apparently we didn't pay very much attention to the clock and were running behind schedule. We were supposed to be dressed and ready for pictures by 1 pm. Well we didn't finish getting dressed until closer to 1:30 so by the time that we were ready, it was too late to take pictures with my girls. I figured it was no big deal because we could always get them after the ceremony.

Well, after the ceremony I don't know what happened but again we ran out of time. See with us getting married in the Catholic church, we had to be out of the church by 4. We had a full Catholic mass which was a little over an hour and then by the time we rounded everyone up to start getting the formals done, we didn't have a whole lot of time. I know the photographers were trying to get as many pictures in as they could, but they left out some that were really important and of course no one realized it until the next day. And of course when I say no one realized it, I mean no one realized it, except me of course.

Now, we were able to get a few shots of me with my girls at the reception, but it just didn't seem the same to me. We didn't get to do a ton of different posed photos that were fun or cute or anything like that. And those pictures were the ones that I was really looking forward too. I was looking forward to coming up with those creative poses and just having fun and relaxing with my girls while we took some cute pics, but I didn't get that.

This may have been the only picture of all of us taken
and this was taken by my sister in law. I don't even think
the photographers were in the room at this point.

The other photos that were left out, and in my opinion this one was a big one, was a photo of just me in my dress standing on the altar at the church. How could we forget this picture? I just don't understand it. I don't understand how I could have forgot and I really don't understand how the photographers forgot. I mean, I even gave them a list of shots that I absolutely wanted and I know for a fact that one was on there. And another photo that was not taken was one of me and Aran with our Maid of Honor and Best Man.

The more and more I think about the whole thing, the more and more I am upset. I know that I shouldn't be focusing on something so negative, but it is so hard when all I can think about is how something could have been done differently. Like maybe I should have had my girls get dressed before we got to the church, or maybe I should have had someone in there letting us know what time it was and if we needed to hurry up(I partially think our photographer should have been on top of this).

I just can't get past the "what if's", and I hate it. I hate that I don't feel a sense of satisfaction with our wedding, especially since this is not even close to what was important about this day. And I probably won't until those pictures come back in a few weeks. I feel like such an awful person for not being able to see past this. And poor Aran, I just keep getting upset and worrying about this when I should be focused on the fact that we are married and that is all that should matter, but I can't help but feel that I was ripped off of some of the experiences of having a wedding and all that goes along with it.

Don't get me wrong now, for the most part, our wedding was amazing, but there are just these little things that keep bothering me. And for some reason, I can't shake them. At this point, there isn't anything I can do to fix them so I don't know why I am getting so hung up on them, but I am. What is wrong with me? Why can't I see all of the positive and good things that came out of this day? Like I said, I feel like such a horrible person right now.

Sorry this post is so long. What do you guys think? Am I being ridiculous about this? Or do I have a right to feel this way? I really just need some advice on what I should do and you guys are the ones that are best at giving advice on this type of stuff. So please help me out here. Thanks in advance guys and I hope that you guys are doing well.

Thanks again,



  1. First off - what a beautiful bride you are!
    I am so sorry that you did not get the pictures that you wanted :( I think you are justified in your feelings even if there isn't anything that can be done at this point. I think (and hope) that once you get all the pictures back that you will be happy with what was captured through out the whole day. In the mean time, I would just try to focus on the positives, and perhaps check with guests who brought cameras, perhaps they got some nice shots of you and your ladies? Hugs to you, everything will be alright!

  2. Oh you poor thing! I would be so upset if that happened! You have every right to feel the way that you do. It is am extremely disappointing situation. I would try not to let it overshadow everything though. I know you already know that, (and it is easier said than done) BUT, I'm sure you will love the pictures you DID get. Plus, who needs 700 pictures anyway? You looked beautiful and I'm show it will show in all of the pictures!

  3. Wow! All I have to say is I know exactly how you felt. The same thing happened to me. I spent all this time creating a list of pictures that I wanted and then my regular photographer didn't even show. It took me a long time to get passed this but once I started getting pictures from everyone else I knew it would be ok. The day is filled with so many differnt things that you don't get everything done that you wanted. It is going to be hard to get over it but in time you will and remember sometimes it is these weird upsetting things that turn out to make our day more memorable. If you makes you fell better we forgot to sign our marriage lincense and didn't even get pictures of us with it. So it happens just remember you looked beautiful and it was a gorgeous wedding!

  4. Megan, your day was beautiful. You were so pretty that you brought tears to my eyes the moment you came into view. You need to focus on the fact that you are now married to the person you love and have waited for.The time you are spending together now, you will never have again. Make these the most cherished memories of the two of you. Try to put the pictures out of your mind and concentrate on just your special time together and deal with the pictures after you actually see what ones you have. You may be pleasantly surprised. All I've been thinking about is how we left in such a hurry because of the weather, that I didn't get to hug you both and tell you how happy I am for you. I am so Happy for both of you. Hope you feel better. Linda

  5. You have every right to feel disappointed that you didn't get certain pictures taken - I'm sure you spent a lot of time working on a shot list for your photographer, so it's OK that you're upset about it! I think that's also a pitfall about wedding planning - we get so hung up on certain details being just so, and then so upset when things don't turn out as expected. You're already doing the right thing though, focusing on the fact that you're married! I'm guessing that you will be pleasantly surprised by the pictures you get back from your photographer - you just need to wait to get them back! In the meantime, focus on fun things with your new HUSBAND, and focus on all the wonderful things that did happen that day!! You'll feel better soon about it all!

  6. I am so sorry that your photographer didn't capture all of the images that you wanted. I can totally understand your disappointment. As I was reading your post it made me so grateful that I fired our photographer for our wedding yesterday because I was not happy with our engagement photos and was worried I'd be disappointed in our wedding photos as well. Hopefully your guests took some amazing photos that they can share with you. And the most important thing to remember is that you are married now! How exciting....congrats!

  7. I would be so upset too! You have every right to be disappointed {and no, that doesn't mean you aren't happy and grateful to be married} I would definitely address the concerns with the photographer, especially for the pictures that were on your list that didn't get taken. At the very least, the photographer knows then that you weren't 100% satisfied. I'm sorry you didn't get all the photos you hoped for~ you looked gorgeous!!


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